When I decided to accept a role in the movie “Taboo” in 1980, a controversial part at that, I unwittingly become a mother figure to many men across the World. Long before the Internet became a part of our daily lives, my decision pigeonholed me as an object of desire for these gentlemen of all ages, and from all walks of life who still crave their mother’s love– that pure, primal warmth that has no equal (don’t we all, deep down, crave that) – even as some of them judged and berated my decision.
The role focused on a relationship between a Mother and her son and a forbidden attraction. Rather ironically, the writer of the screenplay was a woman, a fact which strangely startled me, given the genre. I had declined the part at first but then, when I realized the film would be made, with or without me, I felt that I could at least play it more sensitively – I could infuse love and compassion into the character’s weaknesses. And, judging by the popularity of the film over all these years, I believe I did that. The camera doesn’t lie and, even within the context of a certain story line, there is an underlying energy emitted by the actors and it is this energy that the soul perceives and receives. *
It is rather ironic that I haven’t been a biological mother in this lifetime. I often joke that the opportunity to play the role I undertook those many years ago, was a set-up by Spirit, to create a platform which has continued to offer me challenges and opportunities to more deeply study and understand the dynamics of love, sexuality and the SOUL. Through my scrutiny of those subjects as I’ve worked with hundreds of individuals as a counselor and spiritual mentor, I’ve been able to more deeply weigh my own relationship to each, for are we not all one?!
Our Mothers are our first imprinters – as the key nurturers they begin to program us with their beliefs about how children should behave from day one, of how to be “good,” a profoundly vague state of being that often confuses and causes a child to shut down. I pray that the current generations experiencing motherhood realize this and are wise to how this dynamic can set up the child for a lifetime of limitation. However, I believe that the very role of Motherhood and all of its demands causes even the most conscious of women to fall short of the intended goal of teaching their children to achieve the highest standards of life, and under pressure recapitulating their own Mother’s patterning, thus their kids still receive imprinting which is far from empowering and holistic. Noble though they maybe, honorable by certain (antiquated) standards maybe, they still cause division between the soul and the human being. And, to be very clear, we are souls having a human experience – not the reverse.
My own beloved Mum – a dear, sweet lady who didn’t have a mean bone in her body, fulfilled her role as Matriarch admirably, yet she was born into poverty and her years of mothering occurred during a time of extreme rationing in post WWII England. The messages I received therefore were of not asking for anything, of certainly not wanting more than I had, sharing what little I did have and, above all else, not to upset my Father (God)…OR ELSE!
So, this person, this first authority figure (the feminine aspect of God – the creative force with us,) was a forbidding, finger wagging, fear infusing, threatening entity who denied me the joy of life – unconsciously. And in doing that, was she not unwittingly teaching me separation from my soul essence?
What of the Mothers across the World who birthed the sons who are waging war and separation, the killers, the oppressors of women – what were they imprinted with as they entered their lives? I have to ask this question, not in any way to lay blame but to offer a reality that is so rarely spoken of. It is the answer to this question that propelled me to write this piece.
As a Mother figure, I have a responsibility to educate and inform and to offer healing and unity consciousness to the many who still seek me out. This is my soul’s mission, this is what I came to do and so I use the platform of my Mother image to do just that – hopefully in larger and larger numbers.
The emergence of the Feminine Principle – that’s what some call it – this global movement towards enlightenment. Ascension! It is actually a dimensional shift from this dense third dimensional, ego dominated reality, into fourth (and fifth) dimensional frequency. In order for this to happen we need a critical mass of individuals who are willing to change – to evolve – to relinquish their programming that causes separation, judgment and fear and to raise their frequency – to literally vibrate at a higher rate of energy. Compassion takes us there. Love takes us there.
Much of this programming of the lower consciousness energies unfortunately was inflicted by the beloved unsuspecting Mothers and later, the Fathers of the world, carried through from their ancestral lineage. This is one of the ways that the dark shadow of the patriarchal overlay has used us and continues to use us. And so, if there are any vestiges of the ancient suppression laden, martyr and victim consciousness in our consciousness, it is our responsibility to do whatever is necessary to process it out.
The resistance we see globally – of the uprisings, of group consciousness of hatred and separation, of blame and shame, of events and situations which leave us stunned and feeling hopeless, of the continuation of the suppression and enslavement of women (and some men) – all are a direct result of this eons old patriarchal matrix!
There’s a story I like to recall, of a teacher of mine who many years ago took a group of individuals to Berlin at a time when the Wall of separation between East and West still stood. They meditated at the Wall and imagined worms of pure Light eating away the concrete, dissolving the past and all reasons for which the Wall was built. It was only a short time subsequent to their loving gesture that the wall came down and history was rewritten.
Likewise I imagine Light beings dismantling the matrix surrounding the planet which continues to infuse human consciousness with the shadow side – the antiquated masculine, domination consciousness. One may visualize it any way they may – suffice it to say that it is an energy force of great magnitude. Daily I ask the angels and guides in the unseen realms to work with us in whatever way they may, given the Planet’s destiny and what is allowed (karmically speaking,) to join together in preparing the Planet for the dimensional shift.
I believe that not only did each of us choose to be here now at this most auspicious time in history, but that of the myriad souls who wanted to be here, who wanted to incarnate to play their parts, we were chosen. We are the ones who can create the critical mass and we are doing that – in obscure ways.
Dr. David Hawkins’ Map of Consciousness (from the book Power vs. Force,) based on a 20 year study of collective consciousness (with over 250,000 Kinesiologic energy calibrations,) shows that, for us to attain that higher vibratory level to make the Shift, to “graduate,” we must, above all else, be willing and deeply intentional about our personal evolution, we must be non-judgmental and ultimately we must stop seeing ourselves as victims.
I have often demonstrated, also with Applied Kinesiology (Muscle Testing) that within any space where there are multiple people, one negative thought (judgment of course is the favorite) can impact every single person present and lower the overall frequency. Conversely, a single positive thought can lift the entire group.
We must be willing to see the greater purpose to everything, every event, every situation –even if our collective heart cries out in futility and despair. We have to look deeper and with intention to find the purpose and to know what our role is in that situation, if only to hold our hearts open and to send love and blessings.
The Great Mother Goddess asks that of us – men and women alike. But since up until now, I reach more men than women, I lovingly implore men to acknowledge the Goddess within – the Feminine Principle – which knows only love and compassion. I urge them to connect with and deeply feel that love they so desperately desire inside – and to recognize that each of us is innately that love.
It takes a real man to do this. We need a few more real men!
From my heart,
*Chapter 7 in my autobiography “Sacred: Don’t Touch” available in text and audio on this site!