“Stop in the Name of Love… before you break my heart…” conjures up the iconic image of Diana Ross and the Supremes, their right arms extended forward with palms facing outward in a classic gesture of creating a boundary.
But how many times have we allowed something or someone into our personal space and not taken that stance…thereby allowing the person or circumstance to go beyond the point of comfort and personal sovereignty ? Why did we not take our space, extend our arms, (or at least our energy,) and with conviction, insist, “Stop, in the name of love!” ?
I often talk about the Inner Archetypes, which might be seen as our inner role models, the Parent/Guardian, the Waif/Inner Child, the Holy/Righteous person or the Healer/Shaman, for example. But the particular Inner Archetype I’m focusing on here is the Warrior/Protector archetype, the one who sets the boundaries and protects them.
I was working with a client and friend the other day, someone who has worked at a job she doesn’t like for four years, where there is constant pressure to perform in a way that is driven by fear and not heart. Because this entire process goes against the grain of her true nature (she is spiritually dedicated), she is exhausted when she gets home and too tired to apply her energies towards manifesting a new situation or to enjoy life.
I thought about all the times we’ve shared and the spiritual principles I’ve reiterated over and over, ideals she believes but has not been able to anchor into her life and reality.
I asked her once again what benefits were still in the job for her, beyond the obvious paycheck, in other words, what she believes is the higher purpose. In response, once again, she began talking about the authority figures who rattle her cage day after day, and how she deals with that or doesn’t deal with it.
Where was her Inner Warrior I wondered ? – Nowhere to be seen! It suddenly occurred to me that her inner Warrior had conceded to another passive archetype (or inner role model) and so, it might be said, she had no fighting (I use this word cautiously) power. Her Warrior (or her male energy) once was active but had been beaten down by life circumstances during her adolescence. Once in adulthood, it had then conceded to the more passive behavior of the more ethereal, what I call, Inner Star Being archetype.
Who is your Inner Warrior ? What boundaries does your Warrior apply and how?
It is so important to create loving boundaries, otherwise you may be creating more friction, more antagonism, more guilt, more drama, and more separation in your life. But you want to create an Inner Warrior that expresses and manifests loyalty and honor, confidence and courage, rather than bullying, revengeful or mercenary qualities – the kind of “warrior” exchange we see in many divorces or business dissolution.
The Inner Warrior is that energy that says, “This is my space and because of who I am, at this point in my development, complete with my scars and life history, this is what is comfortable for me. You may not move beyond that point unless I say so, so I ask you to respect my boundaries.”
You may choose a symbol of some kind to assist you to activate your Inner Warrior, your Inner Spiritual Warrior. It could also be an historic character that emanates a gentle strength, power, integrity, assertiveness and innate wisdom. For me, a Knight of King Arthur’s Round Table works, one with all the aforementioned qualities, who carries a banner upon which is written:
“I stand for love, what do you stand for ?”
If you need help with identifying and activating your Inner Warrior, I am delighted to assist.
Let’s create a mentoring program which works for you in this regard and which impacts the many other areas in your life, to bring quality, strength and consciousness into your entire experience.
Many, many blessings,