How many times a day do you react, either subtly or overtly, to someone or something which has pushed your buttons? Against all your better knowing of not taking things personally, the gripping in your stomach begins, your head aches, maybe your breathing is suddenly labored, the heat arises inside and you plow head-first into an exchange that is anything but harmonious… (This may even be just you within you – the battle of your inner personae, the linear versus the logical, the voices which run your life.) You go back and forth, perhaps blaming or accusing others, subtly, even cleverly pointing fingers at others or the situation. You may suddenly find yourself in a full-blown altercation, striking back defensively. Even if you do all this silently in your mind, you are hooked into your old pattern and the war has begun.
Yes, my dear readers, as you realize from how it feels, it’s a war, one which may take you a lifetime to win – if ever. But this is not about winning, this is about healing.
Reacting is re-enacting. You are re-enacting the old scenario when the original wound was inflicted. Your patterns of reaction are the scars and, like it or not, your button-pushers offer you the opportunity to heal.
Would you like to get to the bottom of your reactiveness once and for all, to know why you still do the battle and with whom, and in doing so, contribute to World Peace ? This is how World Peace happens, one person at a time!
The greatest act of responsibility is to heal your wound(s). Discover what the original action(s) was in your earlier life that so traumatized you that you continue to re-enact, and finally resolve it.
To do this, you need a neutral party to help, to listen and to offer guidance. You CANNOT do it alone, not should you for goodness sake! You deserve a helping hand – don’t you? Read any astrological overview for this time, right now, and it will tell you that this is the time to let go of those old sabotaging patterns, for cleaning out the dross and recognizing those inner dynamics not allowing you to be who you really are. For many, it will be virtually impossible to move forward until these issues have been addressed and released.
I would love to provide that guidance, to shine the light for you on those issues waiting to be addressed and transformed, to clarify those fuzzy areas within you that cause you stress and pain. So, invest in yourself, you will be so grateful you did!
Here are some steps you can take to avoid over-reacting:
- When you feel the familiar button being pushed, breathe!
- Step back and listen intently.
- Ask for or look at a replay. If it’s an individual and a statement they may have made, ask them to repeat it and be willing to hear the message with an open mind that isn’t hooked into an old pattern or reaction. People often don’t say what they mean, so wait until the words match the energy you are feeling from them.
- Be honest – with an open heart.